Narcissism can be a negative factor in your relationship, according to experts. Sometimes one might be showing narcissistic traits without being fully conscious of them. In a seminal study on narcissism, The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement, carried out a few years ago, psychologists and professors Jean Twenge and W. Keith Campbell showed how narcissism is spreading exponentially. It’s also said that the rate of increase of narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder in the US is comparable to the hike in the obesity rate. Needless to say, people must seek help from counsellors if they feel that their or their partners’ narcissism is taking a tolling on their relationships. For instance, too much of self-absorption or attention-seeking tendencies can lead to unbridgeable gulf between you and your partner. Here are some expert-backed signs that you may be the narcissistic one in your relationship:
I’m the best!
Do you believe that you are superior to most in your circle? Do you constantly make your partner feel that what he can do well, you can do better? Do you indulge in oneupmanship? If yes, you need to be careful.
Obsessed with looks
Do you feel an unstoppable urge to constantly enhance your physical appearance? Do you place a lot of premium on looking good at all times? Do your friends express concern about your obsession with looking good at any cost? This is a red flag.
Detached from friends
Do you feel detached from friends? Do you find yourself putting less and less efforts in your relationships? Experts say that narcissists often fail to forge caring relationships with strong emotional bonds.
Do you fly off the handle if your partner or someone else points at your shortcomings? Are you obsessed with always projecting a positive image of yourself? Another tell-tale trait.
Do you unabashedly use social media to promote your achievements, social life and other carefully curated self-enhancing moments from your life? Do you always need approbation from Facebook friends and acquaintances to feel good? Are your posts more about ‘Me’ than ‘Us’? Watch out.